Optimism vs. Pessimism

A repetitive theme is surfacing in my coaching sessions for some of you.  The theme is the nature of optimism vs. pessimism rather positive vs. negative or even more so victim vs. conscious creator.  I thought I'd share below with everyone with the intention that it can help us all.

You've heard me mention before that we create our environment whether we put ourselves in a prison of negativity, blaming others and not taking responsibility of our own actions OR we create an environment of positive energy, shifting our thoughts to support that notion/truth that anything is possible when we are mindful of our actions.

We have a choice.  Every moment is a clean slate to learn and grow and become the person we are meant to be. Every moment is an opportunity to practice a lifestyle of well-being in the purest sense of the word covering every aspect of our lives.  As you know, this has an overall effect on everything we do. Everything, from work related initiatives to personal ones.

Below is a helpful tip to dislodge us from a disempowering pattern.

The difference between Optimism and Pessimism is really quite simple. It’s all about our frame of reference to the world.

     In any given moment we either choose to be a victim or we choose to be conscious creator. 

• One strategy is to practice noticing when we are on cruise control heading into a victim frame of mind.

     So how do we catch ourselves heading toward the land of poor me?

     If you find yourself:

• complaining
• criticizing
• blaming
• gossiping and 
• comparing

you can be pretty sure you’re camped out in Victimhood—the unhappiest, powerless place on Earth.

•      Get off at the next exit by asking yourself this: “What do I want?”

    Victims consistently focus on all the things that are wrong in their lives including the people they live, work or share breathing space with, which is really just a reflection of all their inner judgements.  The conscious creator gets crystal clear on what she/he wants.

     So, what do you want?

Mindfully Yours,

Pamela

2 questions that can change your life for the better.

Do you ever feel trapped?  Do you ever wonder why the change you want never seems to make it's way to you in a long lasting way?  Does a "supposed to" thought process exist in your world?  I am not referring to manners that we are "supposed to" do or right vs. wrong when it comes to treating people or ourselves well.  "Supposed to's" should exist where good manners are concerned, for example.   

I ask these questions because of limitations people place on themselves.  Limitations that

Why I wanted to blog.

My name is Pamela Horton.  I am a straightforward, no nonsense, very creative and persistent woman, wife and mother.  I practice being the best person I can be on a daily basis.   Sometimes I excel at it.  Other times I bomb at it.  This post is to provide you with a snippet of why I want to blog in a world where it seems that everyone has a blog and is an author &/or a motivational speaker.  I feel compelled to share tidbits of what I've learned along the road of life with respect to personal development.

I want to blog because I see so many people separated from who they really are.   Many people seem to no longer hear their inner voice.  One's inner voice is what can keep a person on the tracks of joy and bliss.  It is this disconnection that I am passionately driven to offer examples on how to listen to your gut instinct and to act on it.  It is my belief that without a connection to your inner core, you can experience more grief and unhappiness which develops into painful patterns.  I want to help people shed these painful patterns.   I teach a combination of smoking cessation and lifestyle classes to the employees of CT employers.  Much to my pleasurable surprise, the participants and I connect on a pure and unmasked level.  I find the classes incredibly satisfying and inspirational, especially when I think of the rare and meaningful moments, the moments when someone has an A Ha, clarifying realization.  My heart warms when I can actually feel their relief and witness birth to their mini break throughs.  I think authoring my own blog is a perfect arena for me to journal and share inspirational food for thought.  It helps me determine whether I imagine my passion and ability to inspire others or if it is real.  If it is real, what are my next steps?

I am a woman who has experience in matters of freeing myself from the shackles of what some identify baggage, painful baggage.  My hope is to influence an individual with whom I would not normally have the opportunity to “meet” if it weren’t for this venue.  I wish to inspire someone who is ready, much in the same way I was, to stop defending against perceived attacks, deflecting the truth of a matter and dismissing the real YOU.  I want to be of service to and surround myself with those who seek a truthful, loving, peaceful, joyous and the best possible life experience.  I am ready when YOU are.

 I am so looking forward to sharing with and learning about YOU.  Please join as a member and feel free to comment on the posts.

Wishing you a centered day,

Pamela

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