Optimism vs. Pessimism

A repetitive theme is surfacing in my coaching sessions for some of you.  The theme is the nature of optimism vs. pessimism rather positive vs. negative or even more so victim vs. conscious creator.  I thought I'd share below with everyone with the intention that it can help us all.

You've heard me mention before that we create our environment whether we put ourselves in a prison of negativity, blaming others and not taking responsibility of our own actions OR we create an environment of positive energy, shifting our thoughts to support that notion/truth that anything is possible when we are mindful of our actions.

We have a choice.  Every moment is a clean slate to learn and grow and become the person we are meant to be. Every moment is an opportunity to practice a lifestyle of well-being in the purest sense of the word covering every aspect of our lives.  As you know, this has an overall effect on everything we do. Everything, from work related initiatives to personal ones.

Below is a helpful tip to dislodge us from a disempowering pattern.

The difference between Optimism and Pessimism is really quite simple. It’s all about our frame of reference to the world.

     In any given moment we either choose to be a victim or we choose to be conscious creator. 

• One strategy is to practice noticing when we are on cruise control heading into a victim frame of mind.

     So how do we catch ourselves heading toward the land of poor me?

     If you find yourself:

• complaining
• criticizing
• blaming
• gossiping and 
• comparing

you can be pretty sure you’re camped out in Victimhood—the unhappiest, powerless place on Earth.

•      Get off at the next exit by asking yourself this: “What do I want?”

    Victims consistently focus on all the things that are wrong in their lives including the people they live, work or share breathing space with, which is really just a reflection of all their inner judgements.  The conscious creator gets crystal clear on what she/he wants.

     So, what do you want?

Mindfully Yours,

Pamela

2 questions that can change your life for the better.

Do you ever feel trapped?  Do you ever wonder why the change you want never seems to make it's way to you in a long lasting way?  Does a "supposed to" thought process exist in your world?  I am not referring to manners that we are "supposed to" do or right vs. wrong when it comes to treating people or ourselves well.  "Supposed to's" should exist where good manners are concerned, for example.   

I ask these questions because of limitations people place on themselves.  Limitations that

"Not being you and not connecting with yourself puts a mental drain on your body and mind." ~Serena Horton, 14

This was written by my daughter, Serena Horton, 14.  I was impressed with her message and asked if I could share her opinion on my blog.  I am happy that she said yes.

No one is ever “perfect.”  I recently discovered that magazines take a model’s face with no makeup and completely do all the makeup on a photoshop download for computers.  It is fake, deceiving, and  unnatural.  “Regular people” look up to those pictures that professionals photoshop and want to be just as beautiful.  In reality, no one could ever be flawless like that.

3 Tips to ease into a baggage free and sustainable happy career.

"The things you want are always possible; it is just that the way to get them is not always apparent.  The only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life is you, and that can be a considerable obstacle because you carry the baggage of insecurities and past experience." 

~ Les Brown

Just as baggage holds down a relationship, so won't baggage weigh down your chances for a successful career or business.   Without a balance between work and life your chances for sustainability in a happy career lessen.  What does balance have to do with baggage?  When you carry baggage such as insecurity, fear, and feelings of unworthiness, they tend to weigh heavily on your mind and keep you off center.  

Release and Receive

I had some interesting conversations yesterday with friends who are high level professionals in different industries and was blown away by the amount of low self esteem, guilt, shame and fear they were carrying on their backs.  I was shocked because one would never know that they, of all people, had such feelings. 


Release these negative feelings and fears....for every situation is a learning experience, not a failure. Stop assuming that you are the cause of someone else's discomfort.  You are only powerful in your own experience, never someone else's. Dictate to yourself the person that you wish to be in every moment and enjoy the beauty of release and the joy of ease today.